Wednesday, December 31, 2008
"Cik, tak kisah Maria berkawan dgn Amir.. Jodoh pun bukan ditentukan oleh kita tapi oleh ALLAH.. Cik dgn pakcik pun beza 2 tahun... dgn bapak Amir.. da takder jodoh.. cik anggap dia sebagai abang.."
"Cik mmg tak kisah.. masalah nyer.. keluarga Maria boleh terima ke tak dgn keadaan bapak Amir mcm gitu... Cik tahu.. keluarga Maria agak keberatan untuk menerima Amir.. Umur mmg tak jadi masalahnyer.. mengenai pelajaran.. bukan kerana Maria berpelajaran tinggi, Amir nak sambung belajar.. dia mmg dari dulu nak sambung belajar tapi dia ingin gunakan duit dia sendiri.."
"Lagipun, kalau Amir tak sakit mungkin keluarga Maria dpt menerima dia walaupun dia muda.. Dulu Amir sakit.. Kalau dia tak sakit.. dia pandai mcm Ain jugak.."
"Cik da bilang dgn Amir.. ni semua jodoh.. tak boleh dipaksa..kalau keluarga Maria dah tak suka and takder jodoh.. buat sebagi kawan atau saudara.. tapi cik kenal anak cik ni.. dia keras kepala..ada jodoh ke takder ke dia tak nak dgn sesiapa.. dia nak dgn Maria jugak.. Sentiasa berdoalah agar keluarga Maria dpt menerima Amir.."
That was the phone conversation with the mother.. Hmm.. The mother has already know that my family (esp my granny) has objections.. Ain kept her words.. I believe she didnt inform her mother abt what my granny has bad mouthed abt them..
"I tadi berbual dgn ur mum kat talipon.. Dia kata my family boleh terima tak keadaan ur dad mcm tu.. I know la ur dad buta but what has that got to do with us?"
"My dad buta tapi dia sihat.. Bila I tak bekerja.. I la yg kena bwk dia ke sana ke mari.. beli makanan dia.. thats why my mum ckp gitu... bukan senang tau nak jaga org tua yg da buta.."
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I dont have the heart to reveal to him what my granny mentioned to my sister. On my behalf, my sister asked my granny what if a man younger than I but he earns more than me, studies same level as me etc etc...
My granny still said NO.. She told my sister, "I dont care if he has a car, earn more than ur sis or already has a degree... he is still younger than ur sis..."
However my granny didnt come up to me to scold me on why I have to use my sister to ask her that. Instead, she came up to me and advise me to find someone who is 26 and above (coz I am 25 this year) who is baik and kalau ada jodoh.. kahwin.. etc etc..
Yes, she allows me to get married coz my age is already a marriageable age BUT she wants older man! I have make a promise to myself that if my granny keeps mentioning, "cari jodoh yg baik yg 26 and above.." I am going to reveal something.
Remember R? Yes, he is older than me. I believe he is also waiting for me. But I think he has other intentions on why he is willing to wait for me. Money. When he got to know me, he realize I am just a student; a student who went to a private institution.. So his mind tells him, pple who studies in private institutions are rich so tried asking money from me a year later.
He still makes friends with me and keeps asking when will I be graduating...why so long etc etc.. I realize why he asked me that.. If I've already graduated.. means that I earned more than usual la.. and lagi senang dia nak ketuk duit aku la..
I'm not accusing him but just recently...very recently.. I received a call from R... He asked if I can borrow him $100. I enquired him further on why he need the $100 for? If its meant for studies or sickness, I am willing to borrow $100 to him (since da dpt bonus.. heehe) but here's the reason why he needed it:
"I nak bayar insurance motor I.. Boleh tak Maria u pinjam kan I?"
Everytime he asked me for $$ is always his motor this la, his motor that la.. When I borrowed $150 to him (he asked for $350) which was in 2004 / 2005, it was because he parked his motorcycle at wrong place so got a fine.. I lent it to him and at same time I vowed to myself that it will be first and last time I ever borrowed $$ to him again..
Yes, he has returned me the $$ and he also proposed to me (wanting me be his gf!) No way.. belum jadi gf dia dah mintak my duit... kalau dah jadi gf dia.. lagi teruk ah aku!
R and A.. they both are not so high educated.. Both have NTC but with a different twist.. R has primary, secondary then go to NTC(but his cert says ITC not NTC). A only has primary then went to NTC..
In rgds to work wise, R has better job than A and he earns more than A coz R has a permanent job as a mechanic and A is still under contract employment on ad-hoc basis.
Since R has better job and earn higher than A.. and he still ask me for $$, that would only mean that in future, dia yg duduk rumah goyang kaki.. si isteri (whoever la - NOT ME) penat bekerja! Of coz lah.. Asyik mintak duit.. $100 also cannot settle? Must resort to borrow?
Although A earns lesser than R, dia tak pernah mintak SATU SEN pun from me.. My grandma always assume A befriended me to get moeny from me.. She is wrong.. Other guys are doing that to me not A..
So did I lent R $100?
"U tak gi tanya kawan-kawan u yg lain?"
"Diaorg semua tak der ah.. Please la Maria.." I knw he sounds really pitiful now but come to think of it.. he asked during BONUS MONTH? So coincidental? No way! U jolly well know this is my first time enjoying my bonus $$, no way am I going to borrow to him!
"Kalau u tak boleh takper.."
"Bukan I tak boleh.. tapi my family control my finances.. I boros sgt..sorry.. Salah I jgk..kalau I tak boros.. my family tak control duit I.."
"Its ok.. I faham.."
HAHAHA.. Kena tipu! Maybe he 'tipu' me that he has asked $$ from others then come to me.. Manalah tau.. he comes to me first la.. He knows I am a graduate already and before he asked me for $100, he asked if I have show my degree to the HR.. Yes, I already did but its up to them to increase my salary or promote me.. I dont want to persuade them so he thinks that after I have show to the HR, HR will give me 'increment' la.. so the more money I have, the more he can ketuk la! NO WAY!
That is what I promise I want to tell my granny. She always has hopes for guys older than woman rite.. I am gonna say that I have met a few but they asked me for $$!!!
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Babe,
How has it been going for you now? Hope everything went well.
A few colleagues and friends of mine tell me that ur bro is not suitable for me. Well, they saw our photos and he most of the time fetches me home so some of them has seen him before too. They gave a feedback that he's not suited for me. From the way he looks, they "can tell" that he's bad and not meant for me who is the innocent type. They "can tell" that 1 day he's gonna control me. They suggest me to leave ur bro, there are better men out there. I really dont know.
Sorry to ask u this but he's racist? I dont hate certain race. I am natural. Even if ur bro wants to go out of Singapore or any other countries...will still have that particular race he hates, so he cant run away from that race. He even dared tells me that I am lucky that I am not in that race else, he dont even want me. Really? Ok.. I want to change my NRIC and change my race to that particular race he hates and see how he'll react.
Sometimes we quarrel just because of the race issue. Whenever he saw that particular race walked pass us or walked in front of us or walked behind us and talking very fast and loud.. He looked unhappy and uttered a "bodoh". I got a shocked. I reasoned out with him that in school.. the malays are always at the bottom position. The top positions always goes to other races so why he calls them "bodoh" just because he hates that race? So I hope u can talk to ur bro but please make it sounds as a big sister advising the small brother. Dont say out my name - he will scold me if he knows I've been complaining and u know how ur bro is when he scolds pple right?
So, thats all for now. Take care over there..
Miss u babe,
Maria
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Hey babe,
My bro is still young. Sometimes he doesn't know what he's talking about. You know nothing about him yet. You can talk to my dad anytime, and he will tell you. My bro is not a bad guy like your friends said. He's a good person, but he has a mentality of a small kid, though he denies it.
I don't blame him. It's his fate, but I'm trying to do my best here, especially in my career. I want to bring him to Australia to further his studies, and make him familiarised with the real world.
He was striked with an extremely high fever when he was a kid. I think it affected his brain in some ways. He could be 22 years now, but he has a mentality of someone who is 14.
I reckon that you give him sometime till he starts to realize that he is dealing with his real age. You can talk to my dad. He will not leak out your conversation to my bro. You can trust him.
For my bro, as I've told you, he is not a bad guy at all. Your friends don't know him at all.
Don't worry. My bro doesn't even know what he's talking about.
Call my dad, he will give you a lending ear. He's the best person for you to confide your feelings, since I'm not in a position to call you now. I reckon my dad because he is liberal and open minded in discussion.
That's all I have to say now. I apologise for the complications you're facing now. My bro is not doing things intentionally.
Ainu
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Err, talk to ur dad? but how?
Yes, ur bro did told me before that u're planning to bring him to Australia. But he didnt want to go coz he didnt want to leave me. He will go if I come along! How to?! MY granny will sure objects! Guess ur bro is not matured as what he claims to be and I admit that I am immature still. Ur bro said that too.
So coincidental. I was striked with a high fever before and the whole family including next door neighbours rushed me to the hospital and I was hospitalized for a few weeks. So it may affect my brain too - coz I am still immature in some ways.
No wonder we always have some frictions. Both our brains are still like a kid with one diffrence - Level of qualifications. But I never ever looked down on him. I know he can improve himself. It will takes time - if he has the patience.
Sorry for telling u the complications. I will try to talk to ur dad - ur bro will always use the phone to call me till late night before I go to sleep so how to have the time to talk to ur dad?
Rgds,
Maria
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It's fine with my dad. Yes, I remember u told me u were strike with a high fever when u were 18 mths old?
My bro has a different case. He was only 10 or 11 years old when he was down with a high fever and the doctor found that there was a spider web in his ear when he had the high fever.
He was a smart kid, but after the high fever, he just couldn't do things right. He couldn't even concentrate with his studies.
He simply can't register anything. That is the reason why he is not not doing well in his studies. It is not because he is lazy and stupid, it's because he can't afford to do it.
Just talk to my dad, and he will help you out. I will give him a miss call now to inform him.
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Such coincidence.. I had a high fever, he too had a high fever.. His age is big but think like a small boy.. Same as me! Nyahahaha... At least I admit I am immature.. He? He claims that he IS mature.. And I, being immature believes that he is mature..
Anyway, will share more abt us.. this time is the phone conversation not with their dad but with their mum.. Their mum knows that my family (my grandma to be precise) has objections.. Well, my best friend has the right to inform her family coz its her family.. So because their mum knows of my grandma's objections, she asked A to inform me to call her. I will blog abt it some day..
P/S: Forgot to blog this.. Alhamdulilah.. Allah fated me to be in the right company.. Ever since I started working in 2004, I have never get a taste of BONUS.. Coz my employment is either contract or temporary.. My first permanent job I was very happy coz my thoughts ran wild - BONUS.. Unfortunately, the company only give a pathetic 7 days = 1 week = a quarter month bonus.. :(
Alhamdulillah.. I received ONE MONTH bonus from ECSF!!! The feeling? Huh.. First time! I felt 'great' heehe.. I went to the right company after all..
Cheers..
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Its time..
To show the photos..
My best friend has already know
He is in facebook coz I am in facebook...(duhz)
His family has no objections me being older than him.. My nenek still has problems.. Sighz.. They know coz I told my best friend and my best friend has to let her family know. They understand and as they say.. Terserah kpd ALLAH.. DIA yang lebih mengetahui... Amin
I know that majority of people think negatively for guy to be younger. Alot of my friends give me the support and tell me to just go ahead.. Sooner or later, they will accept the truth
As for now.. I will just sabar and keep praying to ALLAH....InsyALLAH terbuka hati my nenek one day...
Saturday, December 20, 2008
My 2nd Christmas Party at ECSF. Yes, 2nd. I joined on 17 December 2007, the Xmas party for 2007 was on 18 December - considered to be my 1st. I was blur that time. Heehee..
Also I have worked in ECSF for 1 year and I realized I didnt complain much abt my work in my blog, compared to D & B.. LoL.
Xmas party was yesterday, 19 December and we had fun. I volunteered to represent my dept in a karaoke singing competition.. Nyahaha... When it comes to singing, u'll have my 111% support. =D Furthermore, the theme is : Red, green and gold. I have a red xmas hat, green formal attire and gold shoes! Perfect!
How did it go? Well, I got 9th plc!! Not bad, huh? Nyahaha.. Pictures? Yes, there is..
Go to: http://amyria.fotopages.com/?entry=1763609
Enjoy!
P/S: Busy these days.. Busy with A.. busy with work and "busy" with family so forgive me if I forgot my blog.. =D
Friday, December 12, 2008
My best friend suspects and my granny anyhow assumes the family so it leads me to no choice...
SMS from A's sister : Happy Birthday, babe... Would like to know.. Are u going out with my bro?
Here's the confession via email..as it is too long to sms and long distance calls from SG to Poland are not cheap at all!
Dear babe,
Before I continue, I think its time for me to make a confession with u instead of waiting for him to inform u.. I know I shld respect his decision. He decides to inform u only when our relationship stabilizes but I cant take this anymore because of my beloved granny who just love to make wild accusations!
Ok.. To answer ur sms the other day.. Yes... I am going out with your brother. But I didnt make the 1st move. He did. U must be wondering how he can get hold of my number. Well, its from the caller ID telephone from ur dad's home. He got my number from there. So we hitted it off by text messaging and meets up and he keeps insisting not wanting me to inform u.. He wants me to respect his decision. OK, I wont. But he has informed his family members (minus ur dad - because he knows ur dad knows me and I dun know if he is afraid ur dad will make noise or something) that he is serious with me. Because of what he said, ur mum wants to meet me. Ur bro told me not to reveal to ur mum and ur mum siblings (ur aunts and uncles) that I am ur friend. I am kinda sad coz I am "bluffing" to ur mum & aunties and uncles in a way.. But I have no choice.. We already have so much friction between us, I dun wish to make it more worse so I didnt reveal to ur mum that we're best friends.
So since I've met ur family, I should let him meet my family as well BUT my granny didnt even want to meet him.
And... I dun know if I should continue coz it will be very hurting for u coz he's ur bro and I know how it feels when someone insults or anyhow accuse ur family members of this and that. But.. I really need to talk and discuss this with someone.. maybe someone can talk some sense to my granny..
Do u know what she has been saying all these while? From the day I let her know that a younger guy wanted to befriend me.. She calls him, "cheeky..", "age still so young already cheeky..", "trying to take $$ from me.." and etc etc.. I also did inform my family that I know him through u (I didnt disclose the caller ID thing - dun have to be more specific.. My family is not as understanding as others). So they got the wrong idea that u introduced ur bro to me.. Whereas, to be honest, u didnt even know!
So because they misunderstood, my granny has been wildly accusing and saying abusive words abt u.. and I really cant stand it anymore! U are not to blame! Thats why I have no choice but to disrespect ur bro's decision and had to inform u.. If I didnt... my granny will continue saying those untrue things abt u and ur family.. YES.. ur family... and that is a sin.. I have to stop her from committing more sins... i dun know how to start off with. Maybe I'll just say whatever she says in malay as currently my mind is not at the state of mind to translate those malay abusive words to English.
She said of u, "Kawan kau pandai.. dia lari gi berzina kat luar negeri and cari kan perempuan untuk adik dia suruh perempuan tu jagakan bapa dia yg buta, etc.. etc..." I know I should defend u.. U went to work in Poland not to 'berzina' but I cant defend u.. I know how my granny is.. She will slap me if I defend anyone else other than family members. Whenever I tried to defend anyone coz I am an adult I am big enuff to know what is right and wrong and I dun wish to be treated like a kid so I have defend other pple too and she slapped me before.
She said this, "Kalau kita susah.. kawan tak akan tolong kita.. keluarga jugak akan tolong.." Yes, I understand but what my granny said of u is SIMPLY UNTRUE.. ITS WAY TOO MUCH!! I wanted to defend u but I decide not too.. I dun wish to start the friction between me and my granny next.. There was once when I defend that u got an offer to go work in Poland and still she said, "boleh tolak tawaran tu..asal dia nak kerja kat sana jugak? dia dah malas jaga bapa dia tu.. dia lari ah..lepas tu carikan perempuan untuk jaga kan bapa dia yg buta.." *slaps forehead*
She said of ur bro.. "Adik dia baru umur 22 tahun.. dah gatal.. nak cari perempuan.. kalau nak gatal pun gi cari yg sebaya atau yg lebih muda dari dia.. kau dan dia kau pangkat kakak tau.. da lah dia muda.. belajar bodoh..kerja belum tentu boleh dpt gaji lebih dari $1200." Thats why I dun like to go to ITE.. Aft my O levels, I went to private no matter what.. I wanted to go to ITE as my mum is still OK with ITE level My granny and most of my family members has the perception that ITE are meant for "stupid" pple.. so I withdraw myself from applying to ITE.. FYI, I NEVER Look down on pple regardless of their race, educational status, whether u know how to cook or not.. Cooking can learn slowly... Education can be nurtured.. she has no right to call ur bro bodoh! I understand he has NTC.. everyone knows that pple who failed PSLE or secondary 1 or secondary 2 will go to a vocational institute and the qualification is NTC.. and I am a degree holder..
So what if ur bro is NTC? He did promise ur parents and ur dad and myself that he wish to continue with his studies up to Diploma level but how to if he doesnt have a stable job? He didnt want to use ur dad's $$.. Thats a gd sign.. I did inform abt ur bro wanting to continue with his studies to please my granny.. however my granny is as stubborn as an ox.. She said, "Dia da bodoh boleh ker dia belajar?" I really cant take it anymore.. I have enuff... She has gone too far.. Who is she to scold bodoh at ur bro?
Last but not least.. she didnt know that I have met ur mum and ur step dad along with ur step brothers... If she knows, she will definitely NOT TALKING TO me.. I know my granny thats why I didnt tell her . I just informed her that my company has this event and that event.. Ur mum finds me ok and she tells to ur bro that I am a good... she does not mind the age being older than ur bro as long as I am a good lady.. Ur bro will inform her once we are in stablize relationship that I am ur friend..
When I reveal to my granny that ur bro told ur mum abt me and ur mum kinda ok...do u know what my granny said of ur mum?! She said, "mak mestilah suka kat kau jadi kau boleh tolong layan si buta tu..kau jgn jadi bodoh terpengaruh.." Why must she said that of ur family?!! I know ur dad is blind and all along he can be independent and fend for himself so why must my granny mention him? What has he got to do with me going out with ur bro? I just say that ur mum likes me and OK with me.. if I were to mention that I went to ur mum's house her wild accusation will be driven further. I dun how how is she going to say it...
I'm sorry. I know u're having problems over there in Poland and now I am giving u more problems.. I have no choice I have to inform u... When the time is right, he will inform u. I will inform u too when the time is right but I cant take it anymore.. my granny has gone too far in all those silly and wild accusations of hers so I have to inform u.. and if u are hurt by those remarks my granny make, I'll apologize on her behalf.
Before I go, are u ok with us dating? And I am wondering what did I do or how did u suspect that I am going out with ur bro? To add on, ur bro has NEVER ask $$ from me.. unlike some other guys I know.. who are better educated and older than me and yet they dared to ask 2 things from me: sex & money!! Ur bro NEVER ask any of these.. but why i my granny assume he is bad?
Anyway, Take care of urself in Warsaw okie? =)
Rgds,
Maria
Her reply:
Hey babe,
I've never mind about your relationship with my bro. You're a good person, and definitely my family will like you. Esp my dad, he likes you alot. That's because I always talk about your good qualities to him. I said that you are a good friend coz you're always there when I need help and there will be a day when I know you'll need my help too. So don't worry. I will always be there if you needed me one day, when I'm in a much stable condition.
I don't care much about what your granny said about us. She's an old lady, she'll see it for herself. Although I know it's unfair for her to talk shit about my dad, let her be. We can't change her character.
Like I said, I've no objection about your relationship. I found out that you guys are together after seeing my bro on facebook. That's why I asked you about it. No doubt that my bro is the best bro ever for me. He hardly says no to his family. He takes care of my dad during my absence. I admire him so much because of that.
I don't want you to think that he is a bad boy, but take it slow. Do not rush things. Slowly but properly.
You know best. Neither do I nor my family inc my dad have objections with you dating my bro. Give my bro sometime to build up for himself if you care about him. Keep giving him motivation to get back to school, or take some courses at least. Maybe you know how to motivate and shape his future :)
About your granny, you know how to deal with her. But let me tell you this. If you faced with problems one day, I'll be there to help you.
Take care :)
Ain
Friday, December 05, 2008
Need I say more?
If u have been reading my blog, then u know what it means by "its official" :)
Anyway, as promised.. my weekend job. My weekend job (Saturday and Sunday and Public Holiday) is at a cafe. Haha.. Surprising huh? Org yg tak tau masak kerja di cafe?! Yes, surprising indeed BUT its a challenge for me. I thanked the makcik for hiring me and giving me the opportunity to learn cooking..
Which I clearly remembers this, ".... might as well go for cooking class . . . . ." I am actually going for cooking class BUT with a different approach. What that fellow meant by go for cooking class, is to PAY OUT MONEY to the relevant organisation or should be more precise, PAY FOR COOKING COURSE. However, I am learning cooking and I GOT PAID INSTEAD.. Hahaha.. Which one sounds better? The latter, isnt it? I dun need to fork out money to learn cooking.. I can just learn for free or learn and get paid!
Where's the cafe located? Well, its located at Takashimaya Shopping Centre. I was paid $4 per hour during probation period. After which, I'll be paid $5 per hour. Its from 10am to 6pm. I can say its kinda relaxing. The cafe did not have much pple coming in to order this and that so whenever I am free, I can sit down read papers and also watch television. Oh yes, the cafe has a television!
What kind of cooking I did there? Ah ha. This time I no longer kopek the sengkuang with my hands.. I used a small knife (and / or this piece of utensil that can easily tore off the skin of the carrot.. no idea what is it called.. )for that.
Oh, when I was under training, I was with the makcik tending the cafe. Now I am no longer under training.. I'm alone tending the cafe and its not boring.. there's tv and free food! Moreover, the staffs (counter staff and personal trainers) are mostly malays and they're friendly..Even the manager is malay and he is kelakar gila ah..
I did mention in facebook that I love my weekend jobs, got guys to drool at...? Well, yes I am working in a cafe and to be precise the name of the cafe is FITNESS CAFE. The whole organization is, TAKASHIMAYA FITNESS CLUB, formerly Fitness First (I think, or was it Fitness Plus?) so Takashimaya Fitness Club has their own gym, aerobic classes, swimming pool (which is next to the cafe!) and of course the cafe. =) And the food I have to prepare / cook must be healthy food.. mostly veggies and fruits..
Meals? Yup, I do provide meals on my own.. I mean I get my own food.. I can eat whatever I want over there! They do have sandwiches: Tuna sandwiches, chicken, egg mayo and butter with banana. So I can eat that.. I was taught on how to make those sandwiches so I also eat the same as what the members eat (sandwiches). Sometimes, the members can demand for other types of sandwiches.. Some want fried egg sandwiches, half boiled egg sanwiches. How? Of course I have to serve them still! I fried the egg la! They want boiled egg, I will boil the egg la.. Lucky they are patient enuff to wait else.. I dont know la.. Yes, it took me quite a while to boil the egg coz I somehow thinks the egg is not boiled yet haha..
I am now learning how to make chicken spaghetti (its one of the menu stated in the cafe) Thanks makcik! =D and now... here is what I have to say..
TAK PAYAH NAK GI KELAS MEMASAK UNTUK BELAJAR MASAK... SENDIRI BOLEH BELAJAR di RUMAH OR DI MANA MANA.. OF COURSE LA.. STUDIES ARE MORE IMPT.. FOCUS ON THAT FIRST THEN CAN DO OTHER THINGS.. SO WHY MUST BE SO SARCASTIC A FEW YEARS AGO SAYING, WHY MUST STUDY DEGREE MIGHT AS WELL GO FOR COOKING CLASS.. AND NOW MY PRAYERS HAS BEEN ANSWERED.. I GOT A PART TIME JOB (suitable timing) AND I HAVE TO COOK. I DUN MIND COZ I GOT PAID.. haha.. Dun have to pay to attend cooking lesson .. I got paid to learn cooking... Nyahaha..
P/S: Sesiapa yy terasa dgn pepatah di atas tu.. minta maaf lah nyer.. =P
Note: Just now, I mention members.. Yup.. only members of Takashimaya Fitness club can enter into the cafe. The cafe is not open to public.. Thats why its so relaxed! Got paid $4 or $5 per hour to relax, watch tv and read papers (when there's no customers / members la) and of coz got paid to learn cooking.. LoL