Saturday, September 29, 2007
"MBS, I tak pernah nampak u pakai jeans.. Pakailah jeans.. I nak tgk.."
APA NI? CLOTHING ALSO THEY JAGA ISSIT?! MY BLOODY BUSINESS LAH WHAT I WANT TO WEAR! DO I NEED THEIR PERMISSION?!! THEY DUN HAVE TO TELL ME! SO WHAT IF THEY HAVE NEVA SEEN ME IN A JEANS? I do wear jeans but not always.. once in a blue moon.. coz I dun really like jeans.. I prefer long skirts.. and trousers :D
When I answered, "Tgk working environment dia ah... Kat sini, i dun think it is sesuai for me to wear jeans." I shouldnt have said that. Coz, I was told this, "Sini every Friday ramai org pakai jeans.. except the makciks2 ah.. of coz lah they dah kahwin bertudung.." *eyes rolling*
"Kalau I nak pakai jeans pun I wont wear on Friday. Friday kan org lelaki gi sembahyang jumaat.... " Before I can continue... "So, what has that got to do with us..?"
"Ialah.. Kena hormat ah.. I tak suka berbaju kurung.. Tetapi paksa juga pakai baju kurung bila pergi ke majlis perkahwinan, melawat org meninggal dan berhari raya. My nenek kalau boleh nak I berbaju kurung on Friday untuk hormat org2 lelaki yg pergi sembahyang. But I tak mau.. I tak suka. Tapi because of my grandmother, every Friday, I pakai blouse and long skirt.. My grandmother kata manis dipandang org.."
"MBS.. kau ni kelakar ah.. Org kalau boleh suka pakai jeans on Friday coz esok dah tak kerja.. u terbalik pula.. Kalau on Friday u pakai skirt panjang.. Then hari lain, I tak pernah nampak u pakai jeans?" *slaps forehead* I have nothing to tell her. I just kept quiet... No further comments.
THEY REALLY LIKE TO JAGA TEPI KAIN ORG.. WHAT U WEAR OR WHAT U DUN WEAR.. THEY COMMENT.. AND THE MOST SHOCKING THING IS... APA KAU MAKAN PUN THEY NAK JAGA!!!?!!!
I recalled that I was having mee rebus for lunch. I didnt eat out. I bought and took it to office and eat. One peon was on duty. He saw me eat.. Thats OK, I guess.. Before I continue.. I wanna share with you something. Whenever I ate lontong, mee siam or mee rebus, that comes with an egg.. I didnt eat the yellow part of the egg.. I ate only the outer part and left the yellow part of the egg uneaten.. So the peon on duty saw that I didnt even touch the egg yolk hence he probed, "Asal tak makan kuning telur?" DUN HE KNOW THAT I WAS EATING.. I AM TRYING TO CONCENTRATE WHEN I AM EATING... SO I JUST SHOCKED MY HEAD...HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS A NO. I CANT ANSWER NO TO HIM BECAUSE MY MOUTH IS FILLED WITH THE MEE REBUS!
HE EXPECT ME TO ANSWER HIM!!! BECAUSE HE STOOD THERE! MAKE ME LOST MY APPETITE! FINE! I ANSWER HIM. "Memang tak makan." Thats what I answer! Then, how do u expect me to answeR?! I cant answer "I dun like to eat." If I were to answer that, he will say, "Its good to eat what blah blah blah..."
I THOUGHT HE WONT BOTHER ME! WHEN I ANSWERED, "I DUN EAT." HE ASKED FURTHER, "Mesti ada sebabnya knp tak makan." *JAWS WIDE OPEN* *slaps forehead* HUH? HE EXPECTS ME TO TELL HIM THE REASON WHY I DUN EAT THE YOLK? OH C'MON LAH.. GIVE ME A BREAK! PASAL TAK MAKAN KUNING TELUR PUN NAK TAU KNP KE?! MAK AND NENEK AKU TAKDE PUN AMBIL PERDULI AKU MAKAN KUNING TELUR KE TAK... Sighz..
I was thinking of an answer. Expected.. He stood there waiting.. I have come up with an answer. I hope he will be satisfied.. "Tak ada apa-apa sebab. Mmg saya tak makan." HE NEVA GIVE UP! HE STILL INSTIGATE ME! C'MON LAH I HAVENT FINISH MY MEE REBUS OK... "mana mungkin.. mesti ada sebab nye knp awak tak makan kuning telur tu." I HAVE NO CHOICE AND OUT OF PATIENCE, I MERELY RAISED MY VOICE AND ANSWER, "TAK TAU LAH APA SEBAB! KALAU TAK MAKAN TU TAK MAKAN LAH.." Then, he get out from there. I know I was a bit rude but I just sumhow cannot answer that lame question... Mmg aku tak makan kuning telur tu.. dari kecil lagi.. Pernah try makan sekali..tapi tetap tak suka and tak akan makan..
SICKENING... I HOPE GOD ONE DAY WILL ANSWER MY PRAYERS.. CONFIRM ME WITH ANOTHER JOB AND I CAN GET OUTTA THERE FAST!!!
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On Friday, 28th Sept.. I had a job interview. HUH? At Rodyk?! NO... not so fast.. (I havent even write in to Rodyk yet) ehehe.. At a law firm.. A German based law firm. I forgot the long name of the firm.. too mouthful pronounce but the abbreviation: VJP LLC located at IOI Plaza, Middle Road. At first I thought it was quite near to Bugis MRT.. I looked at the map (via website), what a LOOONNGGG WALK from Bugis MRT station to IOI Plaza! Then I remembered! IOI Plaza is at Middle Road and Middle Road is near Selegie Road, so isnt Dhoby Ghout MRT, the nearest mrt station?
BINGO! I was right! I looked at the map (via website) and it is just next to SIC (School of Institue of Commerce) . SIC is quite near to Peace Centre. Peace Centre is next to Park Lane (where I used to play pool with my Diploma friends there! *smilez*) and Park Lane is next to Paradiz Centre (there was once an Informatics branch there - I went to Paradiz Centre branch for one of my subjects... during my Diploma days). But all these places are quite a distance away from the MRT station but at least better than from Bugis MRT.
On Thursday, during lunch time, I went to take a trip to Bugis MRT to familiarize myself with the journey so I wont like terkial-kial. It took me 20 mins and I cant find the building, IOI Plaza at all! Lukcy the interview was scheduled at 6pm on Friday. So, I went back to office(dun even have the time to window shop at bugis junction - time constraint!).
On Friday, during lunch time, I went to take a trip there again, this time alight at Dhoby Ghout MRT station. I walked towards the exit which brings me to Paradiz Centre. Walked all the way straight till I saw a bus stop in front of Peace Centre. Then, I saw the building: IOI Plaza! I smiled to myself and headed back on to office.
Nis, thanks for approaching me at the mrt station control. Sorry, I didnt notice you. So now u know what I was doing there. :D
After work, I went there again. As I was walking passed by Standard Chartered Bank at Peace Centre, I saw another familiar face.. SHIRIN! I remember! She is working at Standard Chartered and she just been transfered to sumwhere at Selegie branch..I believe Peace Centre might be the selegie branch.. Hehe..
The interview went well. A major difference, I can say. Here in Donaldson.. I am doing trade marks (reporting gazettes). I wanted a change and even though I can tell the management that I have graduated with degree (which will be early next year), I dun think they can offer me any job position higher than my position now. I am sure of that. So I look around for better offers out there.
Guess what was the position VJP LLC was looking for? PATENT SECRETARY.. Hahaha.. Yes. My knowledge in patent? I can only say this: Patent is an invention of something. Thats all I know about patents. When the interviewer was curious as to why I want to do apply for the vacancy of Patent Secretary when I am not doing any patent work at Donaldson. I told her, "Patents to me is interesting and it will definitely be challenging for me to to work on it as patents are an invention of something. Invention is something that interest me thats why I am interested to move from trade marks to patents."
Hey... this is not exaggerating OK! I answer from the bottom of my heart! Then come the question: "Since you are interested in patents, did u talk to the management about it?" Opsie! I wasnt expecting that. Still, I am able to answer it, "I did talk to the management (yeah rite!) and unfortunately they cannot offer me any patent position because they prefer experience staffs to do patents.. "
She nodded. "Then what about other aspects of Trade marks? U stated here in ur CV that you only did Trade marks gazettes, which I admit can be pretty boring, so did u ask the management if they can offer you any area of work for Trade marks?"
"The same. I approached them (yeah rite!) and they told me that they can offer me other areas of trade marks only if a particular girl engaging in any particular area of trade marks resigns from Donaldson. "
She noted that n her notes. "Ok. As u know I am conducting the interviews. So, if you're shortlisted by me, I'll call you again for the second phase of interview, this time with the partners and the lawyer who you are going to work with." I smiled and nodded. "Sure."
Hmm..so what the chances? Hmm.. 60-40. 60% I am shortlisted for the 2nd phase of interview. *Cedebah confident seh*
Wish me all the best aite, readers. =)
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
First time...
I have irregular PMS! I dun mind if it happens on any other month BUT it happen DURING THE RAMADHAN!! Because it is irregular, I do not know whether should I fast or otherwise!! On Sunday, aft 2pm, there was stain. Fine. I wait till buka. Before buka, I checked, NO STAIN.. K.. Fine.. I buka as usual. Then, when want to makan sahur the next morning, I went to ladies first and there was stain. I told my mum, I wont eat sahur as I wont be fasting. So, I went back to sleep (my sahur was at 3am) woke up at 7am to go to work. NO STAIN! I was like, "Damn! If I know, I puasa u knw!" So I go ahead tak puasa without having PMS. At work, I checked again.. a little stain. Before I went home from work, I went to the ladies for FINAL checking.. Still a little stain. Fine. So tak puasa lah aku! I know my cycle. It should be around this week. Sumtimes early, sumtimes late.. Sigh.. If this goes on within the rest of Ramadhan.. I dun knw . . . . .
First time...
I received a red letter from SingTel Mobile for my HP bill. Heh. It seems that I have overlooked and forgot about paying my bill!
First time...
Pacific Internet sent me a REMINDER for my overdue payment.. *gigit jari*.
Sunday, September 23, 2007
Kinda hard to find another job. Not because of the bilingual in English and Mandarin but maybe because of my expected salary..
As all of you know, I draw a salary of $1650. If I want to find some other jobs out there with more benefits, it is rather impossible for the HR dept to offer me any salary higher than $1650 because its rather too "steep" for them.
BUT I CANT STAY IN DONALDSON FOREVER despite having that kind of salary. Yes, I can wait till I have graduated and gotten myself that piece of paper with my name written on it. However, the wait is sooo loooonnngg... I may not know of what is going to happen next? Definitely more backstabbing.. What about those same pple who still trying their ways to sabotage my rice bowl? It could be anything worse!
U know something... I have planned that if I cant get another job within this time, I dun mind to endure for a few more months in Donaldson. After I've gotten the degree, I will straightaway apply to MOE. (Ministry of Education). Why? My ambition is to be a teacher and I will not give that up. I will keep trying to apply to be a teacher. Be it a private teacher, tution teacher kindergarten teacher or primary teacher (secondary teacher - I have no confidence.), it wont matter as long as the designation: TEACHER.
I was thinking if I am an employee of MOE, to apply as a teacher in NIE (National Institute of Education) will be a slight advantage for me. I know.. there's this question: "What if, even as an employee of MOE, u cant get to be a teacher?"
My answer: "I can ask them to sponsor me teaching courses." There are a few private institutions specialising in teaching approved by MOE. I can sign up for the course and get MOE to sponsor for me. Yes, I know. I have to sign bond with them before I can get to be a teacher after graduating from that course. So? I dun mind.. Coz MOE is a govenrnment board. Kerja government per. Hehehe..
But as for now, I will try and try to find other jobs out there. One particular colleague of mine suggest this, "Gi write in to Rodyk ah. Mana tau dpt.." Hmm... Apply at Rodyk eh? *thinking* BOLEH JUGAK ah.. *winkz*
For now, I will apply to MOE and any other job vacant advertised in the Straits Times Classified, jobstreets.com.sg or jobsdb.com.sg. I know, there are chances that I am not a sucessful applicant. Still, whichever company calls me first for an interview or whichever company gives me a satisfactory offer, then I'll take it.. *Smilez*
Today's THE NEW PAPER, an advertisement on page 13 strucked me. WORK & STUDY UK CAREER ADVANCEMENT PROGRAM (Full Time / Part Time) EXECUTIVE TRAINEE PROGRAM. Hmm, the special benefits sounds interesting to me, "98% applicants get a high paying job instantly, Option to work in UK for one year (excuse me! I prefer if it is Australia!), Work in exciting places - 5 star hotels, country club, banks, airport, resorts, etc, fast career advancement to Managerial position, guranteed monthly gross salary at least $2200 - U can earn up to $3000 monthly, no prior experience required."
Indeed the above advertisement awed me. I believe this is more to hospitality. I prefer if it is more towards teaching courses... :) I did went for the FREE SEMINAR a month ago on MASTERS OF TEFSOL (Teaching English For Students of Other Languages) and Creative Teaching. The course fee is CHEAPER than my UK BSc (Hons)! I paid $25200 for my BSc Degree. If I would be interested for that course, the course fee is only $12500! Exactly HALF than my BSc Degree! Oh Man! How come I only noticed the above advertisement by Harriet Business School only recently?! and not 3 years ago! I would definitely took that course up! I always wanna be a teacher!
So, I think... I will write in to MOE and be an employee of MOE. Should I am sucessful, after working in MOE for a few months, maybe I can sound to the management of MOE to sponsor me that course? *GREAT IDEA, MARIA!* On second thoughts, my application may be 50% sucessful if I applied now because MOE is a government sector and my Diploma is from a private institute. My application may be of 75% sucessful if I applied after obtaining my BSc Degree because University of Wales from United Kingdom, which is a recognizable institute. Hmm... *Made up ur mind fast, gal!*
Remember my entry dated 23 August 2007? In today's THE NEW PAPER, page 21, there was this news...
"SCAMS: 122 VICTIMS LOSE $1.5M
Singaporeans have lost more than $1.5M to overseas lottery cheats, and almost 300 reports have been made about this since the beginning of this year, the police said.
Among the 122 victims, one of them parted with S$353,000. (wOW! That victim must be really rich and must be insisting that the 'lottery' is GENUINE to part with a six figure amount!)
Typically, they received calls or SMSes (nope, mine was INTERNET EMAILS!) claiming they are from overseas companies, saying they had won cash prizes. To claim their prizes, the victims were asked to pay taxes or fees through remittance companies to China (Mine was UK).
Once the payment was made, the fraudsters would become uncontactable, or cook up other stories to make the victims pay more. Police said they are working with overseas agencies to pursue the culprits (The I.O informed me that chances of getting my money is VERY VERY VERY SLIM, but they'll try their very best. Nah, its OK.. I will just have to give more $$ to my grandmother and mother from now. For this month (September), sampai tak bayar bill internet and bill hp coz I have no more money left after giving my grandmother and mother more $$. I felt guilty. That's all I can do to repay them. Biar aku susah.. jgn mereka yg susah. Ingat tak pepatah melayu: Susah payah sekarang senang kemudian? Did I phrase it right? Hehe.. -My Malay very koyak ah.. So, yeah sekarang biar aku susah.. moga-mogahan di masa yg akan dtg, aku akan senang.. InsyaAllah. Amin.)
They advised the public to be wary as such scams often take different forms and the fraudsters change tactics regularly. The police further stated that legitimate lottery companies do not ask for up-front payments before the release of winnings."
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
The British undergraduate degree classification system is a grading scheme for undergraduate degrees (bachelor's degree and master's degrees) in United Kingdom.
The degree classification for University of Wales program in BSc (Hons) Business Administration, are as follows:
First class Honours
(Above 70%)
Second class Upper Honours
(60% to 69%... Think so... :X)
Second class Lower Honours
(51% to 59%? I think...)
Third class Honours
(rather difficult to obtain because the candidate must consistently hit a "bullseye" of between approximately 45% and 50% in each separate part of the final examination)
Pass (above 40% below 45% - 40 to 44 lah!)
Based on my results, (left 3: STRATEGIC MANAGEMENT, BUSINESS FINANCE and DISSERTATION more to go) I guess I am either in third class or second class lower. But if I worked hard for my next 3 papers, that may help to pull up the marks, I will be in either second class lower or second class upper. It is rather impossible to obtain first class honours. Only smart alecks can.. Hehee.
10th Sept 2007 >> I had my Strategic Management exam. It was my second attempt. My first attempt was in January this year. In March, I received a sad and heartbreaking news. I failed Strategic Management. I took it again (after paying $160 INCLUSIVE of GST) for the September exams..
To my dismay, the Strategic Management paper WAS TOUGHER THAN BEFORE?!!! My mark was 32 for my January exam. I dun think I can scored 40 for the second time round.. :( I guess I have to RETAKE the paper again FOR the third time!!! .... ..... ..... .... ..... .... .... .... .... ..... .... ....
Instead of completing my degree in March 2008 (January 2008's exam results released in March 2008), I have to complete it in May or Sept 2008 (July 2008 and November 2008 exam results respectively)! And that would mean . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
ANOTHER YEAR IN DONALDSON!!! I relate it to B... I was still brooding over it and yet instead of cheering me up, he angered me! He commented, "Stay another year in donaldson lor.." *eyes rolling*
However, I heard from the Head of UOW (Distant learning - business), that undergraduates can appeal only up to 2 subjects to graduate. Means that, if you have 2 subjects which you keep failing (cannot score 40), the lecturers can appeal to the Head and the Head will send the appeals to the UK and it will take 2 months to process.. If it is successful >> HOORAY!! If it isnt, same thing.. we have to retake the papers until we score a 40.
Sigh...If thats the case.. then my dream of getting a degree before I turned 25 will it come true..... Hmm....
Friday, September 14, 2007
Today marks the 2nd day of the fasting month... RAMADHAN is considered a holy month for all muslims around the world, where we are required to fast from dusk to dawn. No food or water.
RAMADHAN is ...
A time of worship & contemplation,
A time to strengthen family & community ties and
A time to rejoice
I would like to wish all my fellow Muslim gentlemen / women a blessed & fulfilled Ramadhan... May we concentrate on our faith and spend less time on the concerns of our everyday lives...
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
How many page(s) are your CVs? Huh? Well, I tend to be pretty long winded so my CV was 5 pages! Yup. Because I have a long history of job experiences.. But now, I tried to summarize my CV and deleted off some of the job experiences.. Those in blue colour fonts are the jobs which I have removed from my CV.. Format of listing job experiences in CV will be in chronological order (from recent to former) but in my blog.. I'll list it the other way. From the very first job to the most recent and CURRENT job. . . minus the job description (what are your duties to support your job...) Working hours: Flexible (as long as I have to clock at least 6 hours in a day; so if I were to come in the afternoon after lunch, at 2pm, I have to end work at 8pm to meet the minimum requirement. If I were to come at 11 am, then 11am to 1pm for the first 2 hrs, then 2pm to 6pm for the next 4 hours and total: 6 hours! How flexible is that!) 9 January 2006 to 16 March 2006 Reason for leaving: To look for a permanent/full time job. (Very simple and honest reason: I have been getting temporary, part time and contract jobs right after I'd graduate from my Diploma and so my reason in CV.) So, my next job and my VERY FIRST PERMANENT job. Reason to leave: Wish to carve out a career elsewhere as there is no career path in the current company. Hahaha.. Yes, that was what I wrote in my CV.. I am very truthful person, I will say the truth. In fact, to think of it, after I've graduated and got my Bachelors Degree, I dun mind working in Donaldson PROVIDED my salary is of market salary for a degree level and my designation suits my qualification. Who would want to have a job designation as a clerk when your qualification is degree level?! Pple will mock at you! Kalau secretary or executive, takper juga.... What irks me... in some companies, pple with O level are already holding job positions of secretaries and executives! *eyes rolling* I did apply for those positions too but standard la.. this is Singapore: BILINGUAL IN ENGLISH AND MANDARIN. There was one occasion, when I speak a bit of 'koyak' Mandarin at this HR personnel since she was unconvinced I can speak little Mandarin. Then after she was convinced, she insisted on getting a Chinese for that job (means she wants a chinese lah), she asked me if I know how to read and write Mandarin and use Chinese software! *slaps forehead* Anyway, which company will be next in my list? Let's see.. Hmm .. HEALTH PROMOTION BOARD? Or RODYK & DAVIDSON LLP? *winkz*
(1) PAP COMMUNITY FOUNDATION KINDERGARTEN
Assistant Teacher
Salary: $700 (after CPF: $558) before 0 level
Salary: After release of 0 levels, $750 (after CPF:$598)
(the supervisor so stingy.. it should be $800 or $850 for O level graduates! Grrr...)
26 December 2000 to 31 August 2001.
Reason for leaving: To pursue further on my studies.
(2) VJ TIMES INTERNATIONAL PTE LTD
Indoor and Outdoor Sales Promoter (Study full time, working part time)
Salary: Commission based. Every $25, get paid $5
25 July 2003 to 10 October 2003.
Reason for leaving: An uninteresting part time job. (Yeah, I wrote that in my CV! Hahaha.. That's why I deleted this from my CV.LoL)
(3) KFC - KENTUCKY FRIED CHICKEN
(Yes, pple I worked there before!)
Cashier (sometimes, I was asked to clean the tables, mop the floor and throw the GARBAGE!) Salary: $2.20 per hour (basic), $1.10 per hour (allowance), total: $3.30 per hour!
31 January 2004 to 6 June 2004.
Reason for leaving: To switch the nature of job from outdoor retailing to indoor office job
(4) APS ASIA PDA SERVICES
Assistant Clerk
Working hours: 9.30 am to 3.00 pm
(Official hours are 9.00 am to 5.00pm BUT because I was only on a temporary assignment, I was asked to work lesser hours...)
Salary: $700 (basic), $100 (transport allowance)
15 June 2004 to 15 October 2004
Reason for leaving: This job is on a 4 month temporary assignment
(5) KCAP - KYOCERA COMMUNICATION ASIA PACIFIC PTE LTD
Administrator
Salary: $7.50 per hour with CPF contribution
Working hours: 1.00 pm to 5.30 pm
(Official hours are 8.30 am to 5.30 pm BUT because they only offer Contract Part time offer to me, but it is on a non-renewable basis. Means, if they do not want me anymore, they can terminate me after my contract ends, without paying me. How smart...)
13 December 2004 to 6 January 2006
Reason for leaving: One year contract part time job not subject to renewable.
(6) NAS - NATIONAL ARCHIVES OF SINGAPORE
(A statutory board under National Heritage Board)
Temporary Conservation Assistant
Salary: $5.40 per hour with CPF contribution
Trademark Clerk
Salary: $1650
17 March 2006 to current...
Monday, September 10, 2007
Reading back my entries of 23 August and 25 August, I kept scolding myself. I know there might be other passers-by who were just browsing and happen to stumble upon mine and read the contents will be saying, I am so gullible.
Which, I admit it. I should have been more wise. Although it sounds too good to be true but there are other ways to make my grandmother happy whether financially or emotionally.
Next time, I have to be more vigilant. I am a degree student, who is going to complete my studies soon next year, Jan.. InsyaAllah. If I were to believe in all these, wouldnt it be such an embarassement? A degree student/graduate fall for these scams...
Friday, September 07, 2007
I'd decided NOT to meet R on Thursday, 6th September. Before I could notify him of my confirmation.. he dropped me a msg first.. Sighz..I think he desperately wants to meet me. . . . . . . . . . .
"So, esok u nak jumpa I tak?" The way he struture the sentence sounds as if he hopes I agree to meet him.
"Tak. Sorry. Baru teringat. Esok kan malam Jumaat. Tak baik kalau kita berdua-duaan." What do you think of the outcome next? He still send me an sms..
"On Monday.. I tak kerja part time. I off. Kita jumpa kat bugis 6pm?" When I read that msg, my eyes rolled and I slapped my forehead...
"Monday.. I ada exam." He still wont give up, will he?! "K.. then bila boleh jumpa?" I didnt replied that msg till today. . . .
Tuesday, September 04, 2007
Have u ever reject someone? Well, I did. If you have been constantly been reading my blog, u shld know that I rejected a chinese colleague of mine. However, I did not relate to you about another guy who I rejected before meeting B, my chinese colleague. Let's call him R. 7) He smokes
I met R thru this social networking site. Nope, not Friendster.com but Myspace.com. Well, its OK for him to add me and send me a message. I am OK with that. Thats what those sites are for. However, there is a limit to that. I will not entertain questions such as, "Are you single?", "Do u have a boyfriend?" etc. I will strictly remove that particular person from my list and block him from accessing my profile.
I met R, who is 7 years older than me, via Myspace.com in the year 2004. We exchanged messages. Soon, exchanged numbers. Then, chat on the phone. Finally, meet up. Well, he was OK.. Quite plumb, dark skin. Met him twice. After that we didnt have the chance to meet, only sms and phone calls but not always.. very seldomly.
I obviously have no feelings for him. I wont have feelings on guys I met online. I treat them as friends. From the way, we chat on phone and exchanging smses, I can sense that he sumhow has "feelings" for me. Until last year, when he dropped the bombshell....He wish to have me as his girlfriend!
So what was my answer? DUHZ.. I am STILL SINGLE..so, that means, I rejected him! I have to be carefully with what I say as I fear it might hurt his feelings. I told him nicely that I was not ready for any relationship yet. He understood. He didnt ask for any reasons.
I have my reasons why I rejected him, which he does not know.
1) Guys whom I met online, I have to be very careful with. They may be bad.. They may be good.
2) He is holding 2 jobs to support the family. 2 jobs?! That clearly meant that both jobs are of lowly paid..
3) He is only N level holder. (He did mention that he studied in ITE before but I forgot whether he failed his exams or he dropped out)
4) He loves to eat and he did mention to me before that he wants a wife who can cook for him everyday.. EVERYDAY?!! HABIS LAH aku! Let me repeat: I DUN KNOW HOW TO COOK and the word, COOKING FREAKS ME OUT!!
5) From the way he behaves and from his gestures, I can sense that he wants pple to listen to him. There was an occasion where I merely gave suggestions and he sumhow raised his voice at me and said, "I DUN NEED YOU TO TELL ME, I KNOW." Woah..SO ARROGANT! Ini mcm nak jadi my husband?! NO WAY..
6) He has a license but not a car license.. A motorcycle license. I met him twice but the mode of transportation: public. He did not take me for a ride in his motorcycle because coincidently during those two occasions when he met me, his motorcycle was sent for repair and he has to take a public transport.
When I informed him that I was not ready for any relationship, he was kinda disheartened. He then asked me if I have any friends to intro him. Huh?! I do not dare to intro any girls to him! However, I did inform only one of my friends and she happens to be my best friend, Faridah. I told her everything from A to Z; how I met him and why I intro him to her.
Yes, they sort of hit it off pretty well via sms. They only met once and Faridah told me an incident and I shall not relate it here. Still, they are keeping in touch thru sms. Faridah told me that he wants to meet her again but Faridah fely kinda fidgety to meet him again. Also, Faridah did mention this: "Asal sms ajer.. dia asyik banding aku dgn kau.. Dia asyik berbual pasal kau. Dia selalu puji kau. Dan dia sanggup tunggu kau sehingga kau dpt ijazah. Aku tak marah. Dia kenal kau dulu.." Whenever R wish to meet Faridah, she will find excuses not to meet him.
He still kept in contact with me though via sms too. He always sends/asks this: "Hello. How's life?" To both of us! Kadang2 tu mcm malas nak layan. Still, I reply to the sms. Tak baik kan. Layankan lah saje..
I suppose he is not giving up. He still waits for me. I received a recent sms from him. The one in green fonts are his.
"Hai. Dah abis sch?"
"Belum. InsyaAllah next year, January graduate"
"All the best to you. Semoga berjaya!"
"Thanks"
Silence for 5 mins.
"Bila u nak keluar dgn I? U tak pernah keluar nik moto dgn I. Hehe"
When I read that sms, I choked for awhile. I then called Faridah and told her. To think she can take it as joke! Her msgs in pink font.
"Heehee.. Dia ajak kau date eh..?"
"Haha.. Nak ajak date boleh tapi no motor!"
My reply to R: "Err.. naik motor? Thats the problem.. I takut ah naik motor."
"Alah.. I bawa pelan2."
Faridah's reply to me: "Heehee.. Kau tu ringan sikit. Ok pe..Lain lah kalau aku yg berat ni...confirm tayar motor pancit kalau aku naik..ahakz.." Oh dear! Idah..I am seeking your advice! This is serious matter! No time for jokeS! Sighz..
Silence for another 10 mins.
"U nak keluar dgn I tak this Thurs? Kita jumpa kat bugis at 6pm. Amacam?"
I gasped! Huh? What is this? He sets the day and time without even waiting for a "yes" or "no" from me?! That desperate?! *eyes rolling*
I called Faridah again. I told her that I do not wish to offend him or hurt him but I cant say "no". Faridah advise me NOT to say no but 'InsyaAllah.' I did as what she advised me.
"K. U confirm with me by Wed (AND THATS TOMORROW!). Good nite."
HELP!! How? Must I or must I not? Well, yes I met him before but it has been like almost 2 years since we last met each other so I may feel uneasy when I met him.
I know he does not give up and still waits for me BUT I have to disappoint him. I cant accept him and I cant love him. I've listed my reasons above. He earned half of my salary and due to that, he has to take up another job part time. He is a heavy eater and he seldom eats out. He loves his mummy's cooking! That would mean that whoever get marries to him has to cook for him! Waduh!
Additional reason: I will be known as university graduate after January 2008. Would a university graduate want to have a boyfriend who is only N level? I am not looking down on him or anyone out there who has low qualifications but I do not want other pple to look down on me... Most of my relatives marry someone else who are of equal status. Lawyer marry lawyer. Nurse marry civil servant. Master graduate marry master graduate... ITE graduate marry ITE graduate etc.. etc... Then you expect me, soon-to-be university graduate marry N level holder?! My relatives and their in laws will mock at me!
Frankly speaking.. I do not mind to marry a guy who is of lower qualification than me. I can accept as low as ITE graduate only. Below than that.. I can try to consider.
Time is now 11.31pm. I have less than 24 hours to decide. I think no harm meeting him or just go watch a movie or have dinner but if he were to express some words, I am afraid I have to reject him again... and it might hurt him. I know how it feels like to be hurt. I have experienced it before, not once but TWICE. But if it leads me to no choice. . . . . .
Sunday, September 02, 2007
Maria, U and ur nenek jgn bimbang k. U did the right thing to go make police report. Just remember and doa, org yang tipu duit penat kita akan dapat balasan. Dont think so much, let the police yg handle k.
ZJ
ZJ, I know I did the right thing to lodge the report but my grandma and my mum tak tau I go lodge the report. They mcm biarkan ajer mereka "makan" duit. But mana boleh.. I dah jadi victim I taknak in future other pple will fall for it too.. so I go make the report. I know its my mistake jugak ah.. I go and reply to that email tanpa berfikir, "Betul ke tidak ni?" Coz my mind mcm, "Kalau betul lah, my mum boleh ada early retirement, my nenek hidup senang" Rupa-rupanya, ini semua tipuan.
Do u know that today when I check my Yahoo email I terperanjat! I received email from those UK pple telling me that if I didnt make payment of 4,000 UK pounds sterling, not only my "winnings" will be 'forfeited' but they will bring me to court!
I panicked ah! Lucky today after work memang I berniat nak ke Clementi Police Station to lodge this report. Actually, my grandma and mum had informed me not to make a report. Biarkan Mat Salleh tu makan duit dia. But when I read this email mentioning about going to court, dah melampau ni so I dun know lah whether it is true or hanya ugutan but just report lah to protect myself.
And one more thing.. Ada lagi. Sumone from Burkina Faso, West Africa (agaknyer lah tu) tak pasal-pasal want to "arrest" me if I didnt 'produce' entah apa certificates. That one, my grandma and my mum tak tau menahu pasal ni coz I dont want them to be tricked again. I tau I salah. Even if I tak interested, I should just ignore or delete the email but I go and reply this: "Find another victim, I am not interested." So dah panjang lebar lak cerita nyer..
So since I dah report via online I have to go down to Clementi Police Station to make statement ah today. For the Mat Salleh (first case tu yg tipu duit nenek I) Yg Africa tu (walaupun tak tipu duit sesiapa) another report, different I.O yg in charge. What a hassle!
Maria,
The best is jgn bilang ur mum and nenek, dont make them worried k. Just do what you think is best. Walaupun they bukan org Islam, they will get more balasan dari Allah. Insyallah, niat u yg baik untuk give a good life to ur family will get ganjaran dari Allah. Take this as a lesson, jgn mudah percaya org tak kira sesiapa pun baik Islam atau bukan. U are a nice girl dats why kadang kadang org ambik kesempatan coz u bukan budak jahat yg tau tentang dunia jahat thats why diaorg rasa boleh makan u. Syukurlah now can stop before mana lah tau might get things worst.
Nasib baik u tak buat payment for that african guy. And another thing, once u go and reply, dah bermakna u setuju tau. Thats why they kept on sending emails to you and bila sampai waktunyer utk 'bayar', they threaten u.. Alah.. if they threaten you what can they do? They kat jauh nun di sana...Kita kat Singapore....
Btw, anything, if you need advice can come to me k. Dibuka 24 jam for u. Kesian I tengok u. I rasa lagi bagus u simpan duit dlm bank, lagi selamat, tak perlu takut org akan makan duit atau tipu duit kita. Remember, next time kalau org sound u duit especially banyak, fikir dulu minta advise k. Nanti keep me update about ur case.
ZJ