Monday, January 12, 2009
DCJ,
I remembered on 20 or 27 December last year, she talked to me abt a "friend" of her saw my photo with my bf on facebook and that "friend" asked her abt the photos.. That "friend" told her that my bf looked very fierce and I looked very innocent type and the "friend" was afraid my bf may control me. She tried to defend me and asked the "friend" how the "friend" knows.. She told me that the "friend" told her that from the face expression, the "friend" can tell he is the fierce and control type.
She also informed the "friend" that I am higher educated and my bf is lower educated.. She said the "friend" looked worried.. She said to me that her "friend" is confident that our relationship can't last long coz of the different level of education. She tried to defend me again assuring to her "friend" that my bf will continue with his studies once he has the money coz he didnt wish to burden his family.
She then continued to tell me that her "friend" exclaimed, '"Her bf bluff her la.." She seem shocked and asked why. The "friend" told her, '"I know la.. I also like that.. Guys are all the same, when got money and work, no interest to go back to school.."' Sighz... Furthermore, she repeatedly telling me that her "friend" wished that our relationship wont last long so the "friend" can get to know me..
She even showed me the photos of her "friend" and pestering me if she could give my number to this "friend". In my thoughts, maybe I will just pass my number and let this "friend" called me and I can clarify with him if what she said to me is true. However, on second thoughts, I dont want to share my number with anyone else. Maybe this "friend" didnt exist. U may never know, maybe she showed me photos of any man she snapped on internet.. I told her, "I dont want u to pass my number around without my permission, else.. I'll have to bear with all the hasselment to change my number.. Please.."
DCJ, last week I informed her that my bf is starting his studies again in July coz he has some money. I have to let her know coz on 20 / 27 December she told me that this "friend" didnt believe my bf will have the interest to go back to school again so thats why I told her and she seemed a bit surprised and had to give a thumbs up.
However, she asked me this, "R u wiling to wait for him?" *eyes rolling* I replied that all this is fate and only ALLAH decides the fate for us.. If fate says we're not together, what can I do? I dont think pple (she always get someone else to be the scapegoat - I knw she always has a negative comment and negative opinion abt us) will laugh at me coz they know this is fate. If they laughed, that shows that they are stupid and they dont even know that all this is fated.. (say this just to get back at her somehow la hehee) Furthermore, I told her that he resume studying and if it is not fated to be with me, doesnt matter coz he resumes studiyng for his own good.. Then there was silence.. No word from her..
Reply from DCJ:
oh gosh! she never stop talking abt ur relationship! she try to probe further into ur affair and time to stop all these rubbish! i can see u r troubled and distressed by those 'rumours'. from what i understand, she may have told this friend of her abt ur background and ur bf's first.. eles, how could this friend know so much? does it make any sense? an outsider u didnt even know can say so much negative things abt ur bf? i'm not happy that she never give up talking abt this till u and him give up? is it worthy thinking hard to come up with plan to ruin ur relationship with him? dun be soft hearted and time for u to tell her off! stop all nonsense and leave u and him alone to decide what is best for both of u.. have to be firm and tell her not to probe further into ur affairs.. she is not ur mummy or sister... if u let it continue, i'm afraid u will lose this relationship and moreover u ended up more hurt. pls heed my advice, dun share ur problem with her coz she will use ur facts to carry tale and it could be worst! think abt it.. the more she mention abt it, the more rumour is created and the more depressed and crazy u will be.. i read from a book that rumours and criticism can drive one to depression and sickness.. u just focus on ur relationship with him alone... i will have a good talk with her during lunchtime.. I sighz at ur plight.. if u heed my advice earlier, it will not happen.. maybe its not ur fault coz u're friends and friends always share problems.. she is not worthy to be any of our friend... she will use real fact to create false story.. she did that to me before.. cant believe its ur turn.. dun worry so much..
