Wednesday, December 31, 2008
"Cik, tak kisah Maria berkawan dgn Amir.. Jodoh pun bukan ditentukan oleh kita tapi oleh ALLAH.. Cik dgn pakcik pun beza 2 tahun... dgn bapak Amir.. da takder jodoh.. cik anggap dia sebagai abang.."
"Cik mmg tak kisah.. masalah nyer.. keluarga Maria boleh terima ke tak dgn keadaan bapak Amir mcm gitu... Cik tahu.. keluarga Maria agak keberatan untuk menerima Amir.. Umur mmg tak jadi masalahnyer.. mengenai pelajaran.. bukan kerana Maria berpelajaran tinggi, Amir nak sambung belajar.. dia mmg dari dulu nak sambung belajar tapi dia ingin gunakan duit dia sendiri.."
"Lagipun, kalau Amir tak sakit mungkin keluarga Maria dpt menerima dia walaupun dia muda.. Dulu Amir sakit.. Kalau dia tak sakit.. dia pandai mcm Ain jugak.."
"Cik da bilang dgn Amir.. ni semua jodoh.. tak boleh dipaksa..kalau keluarga Maria dah tak suka and takder jodoh.. buat sebagi kawan atau saudara.. tapi cik kenal anak cik ni.. dia keras kepala..ada jodoh ke takder ke dia tak nak dgn sesiapa.. dia nak dgn Maria jugak.. Sentiasa berdoalah agar keluarga Maria dpt menerima Amir.."
That was the phone conversation with the mother.. Hmm.. The mother has already know that my family (esp my granny) has objections.. Ain kept her words.. I believe she didnt inform her mother abt what my granny has bad mouthed abt them..
"I tadi berbual dgn ur mum kat talipon.. Dia kata my family boleh terima tak keadaan ur dad mcm tu.. I know la ur dad buta but what has that got to do with us?"
"My dad buta tapi dia sihat.. Bila I tak bekerja.. I la yg kena bwk dia ke sana ke mari.. beli makanan dia.. thats why my mum ckp gitu... bukan senang tau nak jaga org tua yg da buta.."
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I dont have the heart to reveal to him what my granny mentioned to my sister. On my behalf, my sister asked my granny what if a man younger than I but he earns more than me, studies same level as me etc etc...
My granny still said NO.. She told my sister, "I dont care if he has a car, earn more than ur sis or already has a degree... he is still younger than ur sis..."
However my granny didnt come up to me to scold me on why I have to use my sister to ask her that. Instead, she came up to me and advise me to find someone who is 26 and above (coz I am 25 this year) who is baik and kalau ada jodoh.. kahwin.. etc etc..
Yes, she allows me to get married coz my age is already a marriageable age BUT she wants older man! I have make a promise to myself that if my granny keeps mentioning, "cari jodoh yg baik yg 26 and above.." I am going to reveal something.
Remember R? Yes, he is older than me. I believe he is also waiting for me. But I think he has other intentions on why he is willing to wait for me. Money. When he got to know me, he realize I am just a student; a student who went to a private institution.. So his mind tells him, pple who studies in private institutions are rich so tried asking money from me a year later.
He still makes friends with me and keeps asking when will I be graduating...why so long etc etc.. I realize why he asked me that.. If I've already graduated.. means that I earned more than usual la.. and lagi senang dia nak ketuk duit aku la..
I'm not accusing him but just recently...very recently.. I received a call from R... He asked if I can borrow him $100. I enquired him further on why he need the $100 for? If its meant for studies or sickness, I am willing to borrow $100 to him (since da dpt bonus.. heehe) but here's the reason why he needed it:
"I nak bayar insurance motor I.. Boleh tak Maria u pinjam kan I?"
Everytime he asked me for $$ is always his motor this la, his motor that la.. When I borrowed $150 to him (he asked for $350) which was in 2004 / 2005, it was because he parked his motorcycle at wrong place so got a fine.. I lent it to him and at same time I vowed to myself that it will be first and last time I ever borrowed $$ to him again..
Yes, he has returned me the $$ and he also proposed to me (wanting me be his gf!) No way.. belum jadi gf dia dah mintak my duit... kalau dah jadi gf dia.. lagi teruk ah aku!
R and A.. they both are not so high educated.. Both have NTC but with a different twist.. R has primary, secondary then go to NTC(but his cert says ITC not NTC). A only has primary then went to NTC..
In rgds to work wise, R has better job than A and he earns more than A coz R has a permanent job as a mechanic and A is still under contract employment on ad-hoc basis.
Since R has better job and earn higher than A.. and he still ask me for $$, that would only mean that in future, dia yg duduk rumah goyang kaki.. si isteri (whoever la - NOT ME) penat bekerja! Of coz lah.. Asyik mintak duit.. $100 also cannot settle? Must resort to borrow?
Although A earns lesser than R, dia tak pernah mintak SATU SEN pun from me.. My grandma always assume A befriended me to get moeny from me.. She is wrong.. Other guys are doing that to me not A..
So did I lent R $100?
"U tak gi tanya kawan-kawan u yg lain?"
"Diaorg semua tak der ah.. Please la Maria.." I knw he sounds really pitiful now but come to think of it.. he asked during BONUS MONTH? So coincidental? No way! U jolly well know this is my first time enjoying my bonus $$, no way am I going to borrow to him!
"Kalau u tak boleh takper.."
"Bukan I tak boleh.. tapi my family control my finances.. I boros sgt..sorry.. Salah I jgk..kalau I tak boros.. my family tak control duit I.."
"Its ok.. I faham.."
HAHAHA.. Kena tipu! Maybe he 'tipu' me that he has asked $$ from others then come to me.. Manalah tau.. he comes to me first la.. He knows I am a graduate already and before he asked me for $100, he asked if I have show my degree to the HR.. Yes, I already did but its up to them to increase my salary or promote me.. I dont want to persuade them so he thinks that after I have show to the HR, HR will give me 'increment' la.. so the more money I have, the more he can ketuk la! NO WAY!
That is what I promise I want to tell my granny. She always has hopes for guys older than woman rite.. I am gonna say that I have met a few but they asked me for $$!!!
