Thursday, December 15, 2005
Friendster.(http://www.friendster.com) is like a Friends Hall of Fame; a network of ur friends complete with profile, date of birth, personal interests & other kinds of personal particulars. It also gives u information of how many people are in ur network, how many people viewed ur profile & gives u a count of how many times ur page was viewed over da past couple of days or weeks.
True enough, Friendster is like one of those sites which gets u connected to people. For me, it's got me connected to my primary school friends and a kindergarten mate whom I've lost contact with for more than a decade. It's sweet to meet them again, all mature, good-looking people, pretty and sexy - i am referring to u: Farah aka Falala. *winkz*
Once u make urself available at da site, ur page is open to anyone in Friendster, unless u opted for a private page which is only viewable by friends u are directly connected to. (I did juz tat..dun ask me y :p)
Hmm..by selectin tat option, probable long lost friends couldn't properly identify u since the information disclosed on da page is limited.. (for those of u who r friendster members and not closely connected to me n trying to view my profile, u'll be experiencing tat.. hehe.. u cant view MY FULL PROFILE coz i set it as "private")
But wat happens when ur page is open to anyone? (if u didnt set it as 'private') You get strangers messaging u weird questions like "Are u single?" or "Are you Malay?" (since I used da name: Amyria) Da less daring ones would start the message with "Can I add u as friends?"
I suppose their definition of "friends" would only stretch as far a few short messages after which they'd add me. And then they go on to "It's more convenient if we could exchange handphone numbers bla bla bla..."
I shld have knwn better than to disclose such private information to them. I honestly can't see how a friendship could develop between us just after some simple messages or phone calls. For most of them who tried to get to know me, they obviously didn't know what to expect.
I tipped off one of them after he asked me pathetic questions like, "are u single", "u have any bf b4", "do u mind to have a younger guy for a boyfriend", "how do I dress when I go out" It kinda feel irritating doesn't it? He was kinda desperate! When i told him tat da purpose of me joining friendster is not to look for bf but to widen my circle of friends, he said something like, "Plz..give me a chance.. I dah lama tak dpt belaian dari seorang kekasih.. plz lah accept me as ur bf.." Duh.. Does he understand English??!
I told him off and BLOCKED him frm entering into my profile!!!! I dun entertain crappy guys who joined friendster in search for a gf instead of widening their clique of friends!
If u honestly want to be friends, then status - whether u single, in a relationship or married - shld be the last few things u should care about.
Sometimes, I really wonder wat are their reasons for adding me to their network. I honestly dun see da purpose of doing so when u dun keep in touch with them. I knw I dun. I only kept in touch wif those friends I knw.
To me, Friendster is no more than just an archive of my past & present friends. It may also be a place to pick up girls or guys or look for people who have da same interests as u, but it wld never be a place where true friendship blossoms.
It's all da same with friend-making sites. There's only so much u can tell by reading the personal information & viewing their pictures. But how can u tell that it is real?
